More planning

Wednesday, 12^th October

Ben joined his new class yesterday, he is much happier there. It is a more mixed group, and on a higher academic level as well. I am a bit at a loose end these days, everything is organised, and some things I do not want to start as we are going away in 2 weeks. I have quietly made some enquiries what it takes for Ben to get a Swedish passport. He has made it quite clear, he does not want to give up his US passport, but could he have dual citizenship? I just do not want any hassle at airports, it is always annoying if he needs to travel on his US passport.

I met with Stefan for lunch yesterday, he said the Pride committee loved the film and want to use it to promote next years event. He was impressed by Ben's professional attitude and how quickly he grasped the use of the editing software. He would offer him a job any time. Actually, he is doing a series of porn over the winter and would like Ben's help with the editing. Of course he wanted to run it past me first. I told him I do not want to commit to anything yet, we need to see what we are doing in the next few months. Stefan was quite happy to get an answer much later. He was very complimentary about the slave. I like Stefan, he has always been very polite. For some reason I felt cautious.

Today we went to the town house and got our stuff out of storage. We have brought everything to the house. We had to do 3 trips in the car!. It is amazing what rubbish one keeps, we both had a sort through. Most of it was winter clothes, which we will need now, and office stuff. Ben found that box of photos again that he had wanted to sort, this time I was not able to get out of it and hide it.

A lot of people on the photos I did not recognise, most are of my parents and their friends when they were younger. Ben asked me if there is a reason that I do not have any siblings. Funny, we have never talked about it before. I told him that I have 2 uncles as well. One is a white supremacist now living in South Africa, the other one in an institution. Nice family, eh? And me into gay bondage.

My mother was an only child, she was born quite late. Her mother had had several miscarriages and she was quite unexpected. My mother also had several miscarriages, that is why I am an only child.

I am content the way things have turned out. I have a good circle of friends, most I do not have to hide certain aspects of my life any more, and I have Ben!! Life is mysterious.

I met Barbara at a conference when I was living in Boston. She is a surgeon, I am an anaesthetist, how come we were at the same convention, I do not know. We bumped, literally, into each other at a drinks reception and spilled our drinks over each other. Somehow we clicked, and spent the next few evenings together, making jokes about the pharma reps. You know how people talk about the gay radar? We had the Master/ Mistress radar. I think she found live at home very straining sometimes and was glad to come to conferences. We kept in contact, obviously, and I met them once at a Master/slave convention, although I did not have a slave then. We had called it a day a week before. The “slave” could not cope with full time. I had met Ben there as well and spent some private time with him. Thinking about it now, Barbara had very much encouraged me to it. Did she already plan something, or was it that she thought we would like each other? I definitely liked Ben, he was very compliant, but did not make me feel like I was using him. When I got invited to meet them in South River, I was surprised, yes. Pleasantly. Anyway.

I managed to get the box of photos and it is on a shelf in the office. I have picked a few that I want to get framed.