Monday, 16 November 2015

A quiet start to the new year


Sunday, 3rd January

The boy spent most of yesterday cleaning the apartment, I had to make sure he had his meals. To be honest, I have never cleaned it myself, so I am not aware how much needs doing. The slave has helped Lasse and Per before, and I guess Per, having been a critical care nurse, knows about disinfecting etc. I would certainly be happy to use everything in there, as I know the people who cleaned it and their standards.

In the evening I finally got a chance to talk to him about New Years Eve. I started with assuring him I was not angry, and I understood he did not tell me straight away. But I had to know about it! I am very sorry that he had to go through it, that I was not there to protect him, but proud how he handled himself. I told him I did not want an apology or explanation, just an assurance that he will tell me in time if something similar should happen again.

Today we were invited to Stine and Torben for lunch, as thank you for dog sitting. This time we were mainly reminiscing about our student days. Ben posed a question, he did say if he overstepped a mark to tell him, but why did they not have children? Stine and Torben were happy to answer, they had asked us intimate questions, and they rather get asked than people skirting around the subject. They are both carriers of the same genetic defect and lost a baby a few weeks after it was born. They would have to go through IVF and screen the embryos. They did not want to go through it. They went through the adoption procedure, but were disillusioned by the system.

We all went for a walk, Django was very pleased to have us all to play with him.



Monday, 4th January

I had to go into work today to clear my desk and my locker and return my ID card etc. I am going to help out doing holiday cover in the summer, but I want to take a clean break for now.

The young man who was my last patient had died. I came into the office, a colleague was there and told me immediately. The procedure is that I have to review my notes, the family might want an enquiry, and as it was at the end of my very long shift, they might claim I did something wrong. He died of a severe sudden bleed in his brain. There was nothing we could have done.

It was strange to walk out with my bag of stuff and knowing I won't be back, hopefully, for some time. I am sure I am going to miss it, the challenge of medicine.

I have not made any plans what to do all day every day. As much as I love my husband, and I think he thinks the same, we will need time apart. I need to find something to keep me busy. I thought I might enrol into adult education classes.



Tuesday, 5th January

So, last night the slave and I sat down and discussed what we are going to do the next few months.


Ben: 1 -close his account and get the money transferred to Sweden

2 – change his driving license to a Swedish one – lessons required

3 – take formal Swedish classes and do an examen





Owe: 1 – find new premises for the club 3months +

2 – get town house surveyed and organise any building work 3month+


Does not look very good, does it? I definitely need to find myself something to do.

Ben is looking forward to driving lessons. We went to my bank today and started the process. We were advised to open an account here, and then he could just transfer the money over. Ben was sceptical, he said that will take ages, and he will probably be suspected of criminal activities. He informed us there is more than1.2Mill Canadian dollars in the account. I nearly fell off my chair, and the banker had to take some of his water. So the procedure is more complicated and we have been referred to another section of the bank. When we left I asked him if the movies did that well? He laughed and answered, it was compensation money. Part of it is in the trust fund to pay for his health care bills, part was purely compensation for the mental distress. Am I angry because he kept it from me, his Master, husband? Well, I guess I am more disappointed. We have touched on the subject before when we talked about closing his account, and when the compensation issue came up first. I think he should have told me that he is wealthy, or even Barbara should have mentioned it. I actually did some numbers when we started talking about me taking the slave, if I could afford it. (easily, but still, one has to do the numbers)

I left it, I thought we talk about it later, at home. We both went to the gym. I informed them I am no longer entitled to the hospital discount, and they offered to keep me on that rate until I have to renew my/our membership in May. Very nice. We had lunch at out favourite neighbourhood restaurant, to celebrate our new start. In the afternoon he had some home work to do and I did some work in the office and checked my e-mails.

I have set a date with Martin to get the process rolling for finding a new venue. I read over a report from Mr Allender, he surveyed our house. He recommends a new heating system, ours is 35 years old. Anything like that is inefficient, technology has moved on so much in the last decade. He also recommends replacing the windows. They are not much younger. At least the wiring and plumbing is ok, those were done just before I inherited. I guess I'll have to dip into the building fund heavily. I have made an appointment with him to talk about his ideas.

When I came back into the living room the boy was doodling. I told him off, then looked at what he had drawn. It was not a doodle, it looked structured. I liked the design, it was like a Maori tattoo. I asked him if it meant anything to him, and he admitted it is a design he had had in his head for a few days now. He had finished his homework, by the way, so he was alright.



He is preparing dinner now, just something light, as we both had a good lunch.

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