Managing Ben

Saturday, 8^th April

Ben is cooking. I went to the gym this morning and sauna, like usual, while Ben did the shopping. I met him afterwards and helped carry it home. He is stocking up the freezer.

It is very quiet in the house. We will fetch Django later. Stine and Torben have been invited to a party, and he will be with us over night.

When I came home last night Ben and Sabine were playing Scrabble. The Twister mat was still on the floor. They really enjoy that game! They were not keeping score at Scrabble, it was more about finding words. Sabine could not come until the evening, so Ben had a few hours by himself in the afternoon, but he had homework to do. Classes are now on hold for the Easter holidays. So he was fine during the day. I think the chat with Ingrid really helped him. He has been quite “normal”. Today as well. He has asked me to find him at least one article to work on from the paper.

After Sabine left yesterday, Ben and I had a catch up and then he went to bed. After a while I went to the office to call Ruth. It was about 5pm in Anyers, and she was at home. I do not know why I want to keep it secret from Ben that I called her. We will call her on Sunday anyway, just to confirm the arrangements. I told her that he has been very anxious. Suddenly I did not know what else to say. How can she prepare for this visit? I asked her to bring a lot of patience and be open-minded. I said that Ben and I might need some time alone, just for me to catch up with him and balance him. She was surprised by my call, and I think I almost put her off from coming, if it would be too much for him; and her. I assured her we want her to come, we need her to come. But to be prepared that it might get difficult. Their relationship is still very strained, and we have to consider that.