Monday, 28 December 2015

Reflections and planning


Wednesday, 1st June

Saturday will be the anniversary that Ben arrived in Sweden. I am thinking about how we can mark it, or if we even should.

We had a good meeting at the accountants, and together with Mr Allender we have come up with a sum we want to pay and have put in the offer. The slave came with us to the meeting, and he kept his promise to be silent.

Tonight the slave and I talked about gay pride. He has never been to one, he and his family have been to Folsom Street Fair in SF several times. There is a Folsom fair in Berlin, later in September. We might go to that. The slave agreed with me that having a stall at the pride event was a good idea to promote the club, but otherwise he has no interest to go to the parade, either as a participant or spectator. He still does not classify himself as gay or even bisexual. He is a person who loves a man. I like that attitude. Of course I will be working when the Pride event is on, it is height of holiday season. We are expecting friends from Helsinki, and members have offered spare rooms and sofas for the visitors, we will host a couple (as in 2 people in a relationship) as well.

We are putting a committee together to organise the stall, it needs to be manned for 3 days.

In the afternoon we picked up our new crockery and pans. We bought it at an upmarket shop in the town centre, and could not take it on the train, so we drove into town to collect it. The slave was a bit nervous driving through busy town traffic, but I think I would not have been much better, as I rarely drive. We spent a couple of hours washing everything and putting it away. I will bring our old stuff to a charity tomorrow.



Saturday, 4th June

I was able to get a holiday cottage in the archipelago from a friend, and we came yesterday evening. It is the only house on a little island. We had to take a ferry, and then a motorboat from a bigger island where the ferry stops. It feels almost as if we are the only people in the world if it was not for the other 4 islands in this cluster, which also have visitors. It is National Day on Monday, and we will stay until then. It will be busy on the ferry, we have booked our space. We had to take everything with us, food, clothes, drink. It is traditional to celebrate National Day with eating crayfish and lots of drinking. I tell people I am allergic to shellfish so I can excuse myself. We decided not to mark the anniversary of Ben stepping onto Swedish soil. It made him quite sad to think about it.

Although we speak to Barbara and Erik regularly, it is the little things when I notice how happy he is here, when he smiles at a joke he understood, for example.



Monday, 6th June

We are back at the house, of course he cleaned the cottage before we left, they have a cleaner, but he cannot leave something “dirty”. Sunday it rained, but it was still nice, he did some homework, and I read a book that was in the cottage. It was Selma Lagerloef, a famous Swedish author from the turn of the last century. The boy tried to read it, but the old style was a bit difficult for him.

As predicted, the ferry was very busy, we met some people we knew from the club, but we just nodded hello and exchanged some pleasantries.



Tuesday, 7th June

The boy had his usual schedule and I did not see him all day. We met at class. It was nice without that guy there.



Wednesday, 8th June

Our offer has been accepted and we take possession on the first of October. We have to come up with the money, of course we will have the club until the end of the year, then we get the money from that sale. Actually, the slave will cover the purchase price, he will loan the money. My investment will be the old club, and Martin will chip in as well. The refurbishment will cost, but the plan is I will pay some money back to Ben.

We spent the afternoon with Stine and Torben, we had them round for coffee. The table was still on the patio, it made them a bit uncomfortable, so we moved everything down to the lake shore.

The boy has slept a lot in his cage lately, he wants to be near me. Sometimes it feels as if we are on our second honeymoon.

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